As i was browsing my Facebook earlier, i saw this shared link on my news feed that goes "10 Things You Need To Tell Yourself In Order To Survive A Quarter-Life Crisis" i've decided to open the link and as I was reading, i was nodding and saying yes to every number and word in the article, i feel like the article is directly speaking to me. I want to say thankyou to Ms. Samantha Matt for writing this well said and very motivating article, I wasn't expecting to feel this good and be motivated at this hour of the day (im about to sleep actually. haha) its like all my graduation blues vanished, that all my thoughts and feelings about this new chapter of mine become more clearer and i feel relaxed. :)
For those who are in their 20's out there that feels like they are worthless and feeling whatever, here's a good read. Hope this will make you feel better and be inspired! :)
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"Welcome to your mid 20s: home of the quarter-life crisis. You’re getting older, you’re supposed to be getting wiser and the pressure to grow into a responsible adult is in full swing.
However, there’s no need to freak out about it all; you should be enjoying this time in your life. So grab a glass of wine, take a deep breath and remind yourself of the following 10 things over and over again.
Everything will (maybe) feel better afterward.
1. You’re not special.
After years of getting trophies just because your parents signed you up for dance class or the local soccer league, of course you feel like you should be recognized for every little thing you do. I mean, how could you not? There are entire ceremonies dedicated to the fact that YOU graduated from high school and college. Some people even have their own graduation parties where everyone celebrates the fact that they accomplished something most other people also accomplish.
After you’re done with school and you’ve entered the real world, things get real. No one wants to celebrate you, no one wants to compliment you and no one wants to give you a job. This might hurt, but once you realize that you’re not special, rejection will feel normal and will only make you feel stronger.
2. Everyone is not having more fun than you are just because it looks like it on Facebook and Instagram.
Most people can make their lives look interesting and awesome by uploading photos and using emojis. I’m sure you’ve made other people think you were having more fun than them on social media with your tagged photos from Saturday night. To you, those updates weren’t that special, but to the person on his or her couch, binge watching Netflix and feeling lonely, those updates make you look like a God.
Pictures might say 1,000 words, but your 1,000 Facebook friends probably don’t know what any of those words actually are.
3. You DO have friends.
After enduring years of forced social time (school), you might feel lonely when you graduate from college and that ends. You start working and since (most) jobs do not provide forced social time, you’ll feel as though you’re not socializing at all. But you are socializing — just not as much. You have people you can call to go shopping and get drinks and anything else you want to do. Just because this isn’t a weekly or daily occurrence doesn’t mean you don’t have friends.
You’re busy; they’re busy. That’s life. You might (and you probably do) have fewer friends than you did during and before college, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have friends.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Don’t feel bad because you don’t have “as good of a job as so-and-so.” Don’t beat yourself up because so-and-so (supposedly) makes way more money than you do (I mean, maybe he or she does, but people tend to lie about their salaries). Don’t feel like you have to enter a relationship, go out for a night on the town, or get engaged just because other people are doing it.
Do YOU. This isn’t a race; this is life. If you keep doing you, eventually, everything will fall into place. No two people are the same.
